5 Sad Realities

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Last week was hard. It started with the beautiful soul I’ve cooked for passing away on Easter. I’m very close to his family, and watching his and their journey at the end of his life has transitioned me greatly. I’ve seen the effects of BigPharma, Western Medicine, and Hospice first-hand. I’d grown to love some of his 24-hour-care home health aides.

I’ve processed my mother’s untimely death on a new level, as he experienced similar struggles she did—Hospice, end-of-life medications, and everything a person deals with as they’re dying.

Earlier that day, Rob and I spent Easter with his mother—a healthy, vibrant, active 80-year-old woman who amazes me. I remember the awe I felt as she walked up our stairs for dinner… “she’s just gorgeous. This is what watching your diet and lifestyle looks like. F*ck all the BS claims about aging. There’s LIVING proof your life is what you make it.” What an inspiration.

A few hours later, the once active, highly intelligent, beautifully profound soul I mentioned in the beginning passed away at 81. Polypharmacy had taken its toll… what a stark contrast and important metaphor. My client was gone, my dear friend’s father… his wife’s only love since age 16. This was completely preventable. Just like my parents and grandparents.

So many of our conditions are preventable…


I believe it’s never too late to reverse and prevent future issues. I understand I’m abnormal in this thought, but hey—I live an identity opposite of most. If I can be a positive influence and disprove myths by how I live, I’m accomplishing my dharma. I research health, and I’ve heard stories of reversing illnesses from plant-based physicians I follow. I know it’s possible.

But my client’s death was just the start of the week… 4 more sad realities took place that I need to share with you. It’s important you understand what’s possible for you in each of these stories:

  1. A 20-year-old kid dies of a heart attack:

    Parents shouldn’t bury their children, yet it’s becoming normal. A young man I knew at work was morbidly obese—pushing 300 on a 5’7” frame. I was stunned when I heard he’d passed on Easter eve… I’d just had a conversation with him the day before. His mother blames herself for not taking him to the hospital when he complained of exhaustion the 2 weeks prior, though at his weight, exhaustion is normal.What would have happened if I had spoken to him and helped him lose weight? Would he still be alive?One of his coworkers explained he’d just lost 20 pounds, but had 75% blockage in his heart. He then added, “It’s genetics… the whole family is overweight.” This is a dangerous mindset I hear all too frequently. It removes all responsibility for our health OR dis-ease. So, I pointed out, “it’s NOT genetics, so let’s stop that myth in its tracks. IT’S HABITS. The family is overweight because they all have the same habits.” Your destiny is NOT determined by your genetics.

    Being overweight is mostly bad habits. Yes, the food industry has a hand in it, as do BigAg and the chemicals we spray on foods. Food addiction is a reality and there’s help if you suffer from it. But YOU decide your level of health or disease with each bite. Plenty of families are obese and have thin children, and thin families have obese children. Genetics do not pull the trigger on disease—our habits do.

    Your identity, skills, and habits contribute more than anything. After all, if your habit is grabbing fruit for dessert instead of an Entenmann’s cake…


  2. Multiple elderly lady’s comment on how strong I am:

    I was lifting a tray of plants or a small box in each instance—neither weighed over 2 pounds max. Yeah, maybe these objects look heavier, but there are a couple of talking points here: our perception is based on our experiences, meaning those women imagined they couldn’t lift that much. And maybe they erroneously assumed they weighed more than they did.

    Either way, these statements break my heart. Women aren’t supposed to be frail and weak. We cared for farmland while our men went out hunting. We provided ancient wisdom and medicine to our tribes. We cooked and cared for our unit. We live 7 years longer than men—being frail and weak is NOT an option if we want to influence and help others in our final years.

    Can I help these women regain confidence and strength by explaining the importance of weight-bearing exercises for the elderly? The importance of stretching and walking, and how just a little makes a tremendous difference in our bone strength, hormones, and our ability to balance ourselves? Could I explain their nutrition needs to change as they age? 

    I have no intention of becoming a fragile 80-year-old woman. I’ve consistently told myself I get healthier as I age, since losing my parents and grandfather by the time I was 28. I consciously have jobs outdoors, pushing heavy racks of plants, moving shrubs, and climbing on tables. They don’t pay as well as an office job, but after 4 years, I realize my connection to Nature and its effects on my immune system are far greater than a paycheck. Health = Wealth. 

    Yes, I’m stronger than the average female—I enjoy lifting weights, practiced martial arts and yoga, and enjoy staying active. (I don’t enjoy “exercise,” so I find alternative ways to keep my body moving. I carry and lift weights when walking, or with Rob, and I push myself to carry my load at work, rather than relying on the guys for everything.)Look, my boss is 65, and she’s gorgeous and fit… she’s just as active as I am at work, and has a similar philosophy about her independence. She inspires me every time I work with her.

    Pam Popper is another inspiration—the same age as my boss—tenacious and well-versed in nutrition. If you didn’t watch the video on Polypharmacy above, please do… you’ll get great information and a view of what healthy aging looks like when you stay out of the “medical mill,” as she calls it.

    Health equals wealth… the two are synonymous in my books. If you want to leave an important legacy for the world, be a shining example of independence and strength. It’s never too late to start.


  3. A client has multiple food sensitivities, so deciding a menu for her is… tricky:

    Herein lies the biggest problem of avoiding foods—the opposite end of the spectrum from #1 above. Instead of that poor kid and family eating anything, barely regarding the nutritional value of what went in their mouth, some people become so obsessed with food management that they nutritionally starve themselves.Both extremes are dangerous, for one overlooked aspect—our gut health. When I mentioned this to Rob, he had a perfect metaphor “It’s like our immune system. You can’t be completely germ-free, because soon, you’ll have no immune system.” <High-five!>

    I continued, “Yes! Because guess where 70% of your immune system is? In your gut! As well as 80% of the creation of hormones like serotonin and dopamine.” It’s important to incorporate a variety of foods in your diet, rather than all these restrictive diets. As I heard a gut Dr. say today, “stop counting fiber, macros, calories, and count the diversity of plant foods you eat daily.”

    There’s a time and place for elimination diets. It’s a gut-destroying trend right now, especially with Integrative and Functional Medical doctors. There are alternatives to removing foods from your diet and reasons you may not wish to do so. As gastroenterologist Dr. Bulsiewicz advises, “not every microbe eats the same food. Each dietary choice you make will empower a specific group of microbes, while others will languish. If you permanently remove a food group, the microbes… starve into extinction.

    There’s a reason well-respected journals… leading doctors and nutritionists aren’t cringing in fear from lectins. First, there’s the other side of the story, which is that lectins from wheat, soy, mushrooms, bananas, buckwheat, and jackfruit [are] protective against cancer. But more important, experts know that test-tube and animal studies often don’t translate well into real life… What’s the greatest predictor of a healthy gut microbiome? The diversity of plants in your diet.” -from his 2020 book, Fiber Fueled.

    If you have digestive issues, I highly recommend his book.


  4. My cashier rang up red cabbage as a red onion, and zucchini as pickling cucumbers:
    She noticed the first, which started a lovely conversation about which cabbage she may want to try, based on her dislike for it.It’s extremely disheartening for me to see how little people know about vegetables, legumes, and grains. It’s also empowering, because it gives me a chance to have an open dialogue with the public and offer my services to them for free.

    But how did we get here? At least once a month, a cashier can’t identify what I consider a common vegetable. And I often wonder what they’re thinking as they ring up our groceries each week, hoping it creates curiosity for their health. If nothing else, I hope they notice the volume of food and the final price tag at the register. I sure do, when I look around me…

    Being healthy isn’t expensive when you focus on the right metrics. It costs us about $3 per meal, including our toiletries and cats… if your grocery bill is over $75 per person, I can help.


These stories all broke my heart, but made an important impact on me. If I want to help these people, I have to speak out more against the incorrect information I hear. I have to explain how SIMPLE nutrition and health can be. I have to share the dangers (and gifts) of Western Medicine.

I can’t keep watching people suffer and die with preventable conditions any longer. I need to offer my help in any way possible, so people live healthy, wealthy, passion-filled lives—right until the moment they pass away.

So, I’m starting with you. If anything above triggered you, let’s talk. If any of it resonated or even started a thought of, “hey, I see myself/family/friends in that,” I’m here to help you. It’s my dharma/purpose to help others heal naturally, without expensive trends, gimmicks, or unsustainable DIEt plans. I offer myself to you… I’m committed to you.

Dr.’s issued 4 BILLION prescriptions in 2021. That’s an average of 12 PER U.S. CITIZEN. If you want to understand the other side behind all the commercials and Dr.’s advice, this is a great video on the real dangers of “the daily aspirin” recommendation. This is the tip of the iceberg—so many “safe” over the counter (OTC) solutions and prescriptions seem benign, when they’re anything but safe and effective. Please read the contraindications or dangers of ALL medications.

This is how I can help:

(contact me for details if links aren’t available)

  1. DIY cooking classes: pre-recorded with recipes and menu suggestions included
  2. Done for you: dressings, healthy (but tasty) desserts, dry mixes for chickpea flour Ohmelettes and flatbreads, plant-based meals (contact me for the weekly menu-Long Island only)
  3. Done for you meal plans: I’m licensed to cook in your home, for those in Suffolk County, NY (Long Island)
  4. Cooking classes: live or Zoom, groups or 1-on-1 (YOU can book these at your convenience! When you get 5 people to join you, I waive your cost for the class!)
  5. Group coaching with plant-based nutrition classes or herbal medicine: if you don’t see anything scheduled, let’s create one for you!
  6. Group coaching on Ancient Wisdom, such as Ayurveda, mindfulness, and meditation. Again, you can book these, if nothing’s scheduled
  7. Private coaching: for specific medical conditions, weight loss, increased energy

Thank you all for being in my world… you give me purpose, each and every day.


Yours in Health,


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