Are you the type of person who doesn't commit to events or (worse yet) cancels, once you've made an appointment?

Do you linger in paying people what you owe?

Over the last week or so, I've had multiple conversations with those who've experienced the above dilemmas.  I can only assume people don't know how they affect the bigger picture, so let me explain how disrespectful it is on multiple levels, to be consistently noncommittal.

Most of the people I know, work in a "9-5" job, where they get paid when they aren't really working; as long as they show up, their bank is funded.  Unfortunately, a growing number of people I know, ONLY GET PAID when they are physically working or teaching.

First, understand when you RSVP for a workshop, art session, tattoo, yoga event etc., you are paying for a skill set, not just for materials or goods.  Second, the public speaker, artist, vendor and so on (herein simply referred to as artists, due to the skill set required), are counting on your attendance to support their livelihood.

When you don't commit or you back out of an RSVP at the last minute, you are disrespecting their profession and their integrity.  Imagine for a moment, how hard it is to keep your passions burning when time and time again, you are let down by the public.  For many of us, we are here to serve *you* - we're offering a service to you, to help you grow or find happiness.  To begin with, many artists struggle with not fitting in to the normal box of society; when they repeatedly run into the same struggles from non-committed people, the problem of being sympathetic to society becomes a moot point.

Many times in events, you are required to prepay, and as quickly as possible.  This is for multiple reasons, the main reason being guaranteeing our livelihood.  Early bird discounts ensure an event can take place, because of the planning involved. Prepaying or giving a deposit makes you responsible for showing up to a session/event.  Many of us have learned from experience, that people say they'll attend something, you prepare everything, they don't show, and you're left holding the bag.  Once a space is left open from a cancelled event, it can't be refilled.  What if your family all said they were coming over for a holiday dinner and you cook for hours, and no one shows because "something came up" for all of them?

That being said, you are not the only person artists are relying on.  Simply justifying your excuse for not going by saying, "it's only my $15...there will be other people there....we can reschedule" isn't simply as easy as that.  It's just *you* justifying an excuse for not being reliable.  Every single person matters, as I've stated with regard to many other topics.  Your vote, your attendance, how you spend your dollars, are very important to the great scheme of humanity.  When you say "you're just one person," please understand others are saying the same thing.

Add up all the people who believe it doesn't matter if they attend and you have cancelled events, or in some cases, artists LITERALLY ending up with no paycheck for a week.  Your $15 may put tank in someone's gas.  Your tattoo may help someone pay the rent.  Your attendance at a workshop may be the one person needed to HOST the event, giving the artist a means to express themselves, help you heal, and pay their car payment.  Your attendance not only pays the artist, but may also pay someone who's babysitting.  It may allow another event to take place, through a ripple effect I can't possibly detail here.

Have you ever considered what actually goes in to your fee for a service?

*Time to plan the event with the venue

*Time to write or draw for the appointment

*The time to perform for the actual event

*Travel time and gas to get there

*Materials, rental fee of the venue

*Schooling finances, as well as the physical time spent in school

*Time to rebook your appointment or the event, as well as time to collect bad debt

*Time to get childcare, and the people involved in that process.

It's time we start to consider the bigger picture, and how we all affect others.  Accidents do happen and things do come up, where you can't necessarily attend an event.  If you're a person who consistently cancels, I urge you to reconsider how important you really are to everyone else.