Being eager for change doesn’t mean you’re not scared, nor sad to leave comfort. You wouldn’t be human if you didn’t long for an easy life. We all long for consistent comfort—nomads search for a better life to have more comfort. Few enjoy living in a house full of boxes, trying to plan a far-off future goal, while planning the details of moving. Quitting jobs, giving up stability and privacy, risk of financial loss, loss of sleep… never mind having to unpack and start all over again. Especially during the uncertainty of 2020. Zig Ziglar states “the fear of loss is greater than the desire for gain.”
I’ll add this is true until you analyze and reframe your loss versus gain.
Rob and I learned a huge lesson in our 17 years together: 2 steps forward requires a step backwards. We’ve moved 8 times in 17 years, including our upcoming move back to Long Island—3 of those moves are inter-state moves, which count as 2-3 moves, in my opinion. The truth is, we’ve had great financial success in Maine and have a laid-back schedule. Our life here is very comfortable.
Moving is 1 of the 5 biggest stressors humans face.
Why would you continuously put yourself in highly stressful situations when you know what’s involved? As I’ve learned through growing and caring for plants over the past 3 years, stress increases growth exponentially. Our life here is too comfortable. It’s so comfortable it’s stagnant; never mind it being unfulfilling.
I have a dear friend who struggled with an addiction to alcohol and hard drugs for almost 30 years. They gave it up cold turkey when as they told me, “I realized what I was really doing to my family. I realized my child would grow up without a parent. I stopped in an instant and never went back.”
It’s the first time my friend never returned to the addiction, despite years of previous treatment, hospitalization, and rehabilitation meetings. This time, they beat the addiction on their own.
How could my friend beat a reoccurring addiction (desire for pleasure/gain) when so many others continuously give in (including my parents)?
My friend understood the real reason “why” they needed to push through the pain of sobriety. The desire to enjoy a life of family and watching their child grow up was greater than the fear of losing comfort in the addiction.
The desire must be greater than your fear of loss.
As Rob and I embark on a hectic, scary future to open our businesses on Long Island, I’m compelled to ask you this:
- What is your passion in life?
- What is your deep, dark reason for following through? (I share my “why” here…)
From the bottom of our hearts, thank you.
You are the gain that makes the temporary loss of comfort bearable. <3